By looking at our relationships with other people we can look deeper into ourselves. We have a choice to point our finger at these other people for “making” us unhappy, crazy or mad … you pick the adjective OR you can take this opportunity as a great gift and understand from the other person more about who you are and what you are willing to accept in your life.
It really takes dating to an entirely new level. When I look at the person across from me I have to ask myself some questions.. Are there qualities in that person I do not like? If so, is it a quality in me that I have a blind spot to and have not accepted as my own? I search around and really look at this..if I am going to grow and learn along this journey, I must look at myself as the old saying goes “When you point one finger at someone else, there are four more pointing at you.” So – I take full responsibility and truly look if it is something within me that is a belief or a way of being. I ask myself do I want to be that or do I want to be something else? Because if I want to bring the man of my dreams into my life I have to be a match to that or if you want to bring the woman of your dreams into your life..
The work begins with you and the the person sitting across from you is always an opportunity to look at who you really are and how you are showing up in the world. You have to reflect the qualities that he has in his belief system, his ethics and his way of being.. that is not to say that we should have the same personality or carry the same energy meaning masculine and femine we should be a perfect balance for each other.