What About Love?

Don’t you want someone to care about you?

Of course you do!

It is not only a natural human desire, it is actually a need. 

In fact, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth “—Virginia Satir, family therapist
So – what do we do about that?

Purify your heart. 

             1.    Let it go!

             What this means is that if you are full of hate, anger and baggage – you will be an invisible energy bubble of ick!  Who would want to be around you?  Only another bubble of ick!  Law of Attraction in action! You will attract what and who you are.  Is this the kind of partner you want or do you want someone loving, kind, etc?

You can say all day long until the cows come home.. oh that’s in the past that doesn’t affect my current relationship.. then it is time for you to get REAL with yourself.  Whether you speak about how men are dogs or harbor past unforgiveness for an old friend, you carry that baggage with you.

So – go back and do the heal the past exercise and exorcise yourself of all your past crapola..

Think of all those things that make you angry, the people you haven’t forgiven, and the judgments you carry about your friends, family, co-workers, whoever. Realize your negative thoughts do absolutely no harm to them– this behavior only does you harm. 

You are in essence carrying a bag of poop and the more people you judge and have ill will toward the bigger the bag and the more poop. So – if you are carrying one of those around – drop that moe foe now!  Let it go! Second)

         2.    Forgive and love yourself

         Pay attention to your thoughts..

Do you ever think – “Oh my gosh, I’m fat!” when you look in the mirror? Or think to yourself, “I should be more                                 (successful, handsome, you fill in the blank).”?

Well, that is first off self fulfilling whenever you state something as I am_____________. And secondly, don’t ever should on yourself.. that chips away at your own empowerment..

Both of these statements can be reframed when you catch yourself.  Give yourself credit for what you are or what you have done. For example, “I am curvaceous and beautiful, I love my healthy body.” In terms of success, maybe state something in the positive “Look how far I have come!” “Inch by inch, I am making progress.”  Whatever feels right, once you begin to do that for yourself the energy around you will begin to shift and the heavens will open .. Laa Aaah! heehee

 Have you made decisions in your past that you are not proud of.. can you go back and love yourself for it anyway?

Don’t you know this scenario – Honey do I look fat? Loaded question.. what is your partner suppose to say and if they really do love you then they probably think you look beautiful – well, if you argue with them you are not only beating yourself up but you are also telling them that you don’t respect their opinion.

This part is so important.. if you don’t let go of your own hate toward yourself how do you really expect someone else to love you fully?

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One Response to What About Love?

  1. Bill Brinton February 8, 2011 at 4:11 pm #

    Dear Cynthia,

    This is a great post. You have described me almost exactly, I do however, have to find out what to do now.